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Successfully completing twelve years of school can be quite an accomplishment for a student, but that’s only just the beginning. That summer after graduation and before college is a major life change for high school graduates. Now reality hits that there is an entire life and world ahead. There are many different choices and paths to make about which is the right one.
During high school, your teen may have felt that they wanted to be an astronaut, engineer, or doctor. Now they may be experiencing doubts about whether they can do these things. They might have all kinds of little voices telling them that they can’t do these things, and perhaps should just work at a fast food place or wait until a better time to figure things out.
Here’s some post-graduation inspiration to help encourage your teen to keep on going.Henry Ford says, 'Whether you believe you can do a thing or not, you are right.' Click To Tweet
Henry Ford had a quote that he was famous for saying: “Whether you believe you can do a thing or not, you are right.” No matter which direction you’re thinking, positive or negative, it’s what matters at the time you are thinking it.
If you believe that you can become a doctor, then your chances are greatly increased that you’ll succeed. But if you believe that you can’t become a doctor, then you’re going to give up.
You can see how both lines of thinking can influence your mind and make them the truth. Talk to your graduate and help them see that they can do anything they set their mind to.
Look at all the big celebrities and millionaires in the world. Read their backstories. Many grew up in poverty, to single parents. Some have disabilities or are minority races. Some people have been to prison or have health conditions. Yet, despite these odds, they have worked their way up to not only becoming major influencers in the world but to also being millionaires or billionaires. These people have failed again and again, but they just kept on going until they did succeed.
It’s best to choose a path and do it. They can always change paths later. At least they will know what they don’t want. I have three different degrees and still not sure what I want but I keep trecking along and ruling out what I don’t want to be and do.
My favorite book is “The Traveler’s Gift.” by Andy Andrews. I highly recommend anybody with life changes to read it…well I recommend anybody to read it. It is an easy read. The main character learns about the 7 Decisions for Success one of them is…”When I am faced with a choice of doing nothing or doing something, I will always choose to ACT! I sieze this moment. I choose now!”'When I am faced with the choice of doing nothing or doing something, I will always choose to ACT! I seize this moment. I choose now!'Click To Tweet
Didn’t get into the university they wanted? Good! There is an even better one out there meant just for them. Didn’t get the part-time job they wanted? Excellent! Maybe they will have more time for studying! A girlfriend dumped them? Good! Now it will be easier to focus on college studies.
Every time they fail, encourage them to celebrate what might be! When one door closes many more open.
Preaching incessantly to your teen about how to deal with the challenges of life is going to quickly tune them out. Instead, encourage them to talk to you, a trusted teacher, or a good friend. Have real conversations with them. Ask them how they’d cope with a specific challenge out in the real world. Often other people have insights or knowledge that can help them get past an obstacle.
Just remind them that the only way forward is to keep on going. Even if they don’t know what, where or how. Just keep moving and trying. Remember to help them celebrate small successes, as often it’s those smaller ones that are more important to people than that one big goal at the end.
I often have to remind myself to have patience as I guide my teen in his next step in life. As parents we want them to make good choices and learn to deal with the real world without feeling overwhelmed but we can’t make the choices for them.
How have your teens adjusted to life after high school? Any tips and tricks to help others?
Karie Babbitt is a Lifestyle and Family Travel Writer. Mother of three boys and one girl. She has raised a family of six on a single income for over twenty-five years. She will share how she budgets so she can travel to show her kids all fifty states before they leave her home. Her parenting fails and successes, budgeting tips, food and living life in bliss.